Signs point out to Jordan Valderaz being my future husband. So why is he so cruel to me over money? I lost my job after 29 years because I wasn't able to take an Uber to get there, my paychecks went - question #3588

towards that. And had seized control over my bank account and dictated how much of MY money I was able to have. I was also getting hacked every day and he didn't let me protect myself because it endangered his flight back home to me. And he punished me by forcing me to put three fourths of my paycheck on cash app for him to wire. And after I got fired he harassed me via email because I wasn't sending him any money so he could come home. When I was out of work and not receiving a paycheck and was on food stamps. And he had an airline ticket last year but needed money for his passport and I only had $200 in my bank. So he fought with me over that because I didn't close the account and give him the money, and he vowed to just sit in his army base angry until I did.When the ticket expired. And when I was working again he wouldn't let me see a dime of my own money, when I was dirt poor and needing to buy food for myself and take care of my pets. Fought with me over money I needed for Christmas and with my sisters birthday a week away he is demanding my whole check because if I don't that cancel his flight and I don't want him home. Not true at all. Had a mini heart attack last night because of him telling me that. Why is he so mean and cruel to me about money? He seems to want me to just stay locked up in a padded cell somewhere until he comes home. And not be able to eat, take care of my pets, go to a movie to get out of the house, or buy things I need for myself. Why is is he so mean and cruel to me over money? He also beat up his last husband and put him in intensive care right before going to jail for it and endangering his army career,I have a feeling he beat up his second husband and I also have a bad feeling he was physically violent with the woman he married when he was barely a twenty year old kid. Will I be the next person to have «accidents» and lying about the black eyes after I meet him? Am I facing a lifetime of spousal abuse after I meet him or is he willing to admit a problem and wanting to change?

July 9, 2025